Thursday, August 25, 2011

THE MISSING LINK TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

THE MISSING LINK TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
The institution at marriage has been said to be thorny by some, but those who have been there and enjoyed it tell a different story. Happiness in marriage does not automatically come because you and your partner love each other. It comes because you make an effort to keep the fire burning
For the fire to burn continuously we have to go back to the basics and apply the principles which govern the institution. We also need to allow the maker of this beautiful gift of marriage teach us how it works
The designer of things in the world, it is a must that they put a manual showing us how to use those things bet it radio, TV, auto- mobile etc
Take the example as a car, He will show you the things to it, oil and fuels. Each car has a specific type of fuel and Oil to run it. For example you can’t put in a petro engine Oils that run a diesel engine or fuel. You can’t put any type of liquid.
In the same way God as the designer of marriage supplied which it a manual the Bible and the fuel to run it the Holy Spirit for us to have a successful marriage, we need to link and have the proper fuel to run the marriage.
Let us see what the Bible says:-
Colossians 3:17
17 And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.
Colossians 3:23.
23 And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,
The Bible is saying whatever we do not in some it the things we do. This include marriage, to do everything well and perfect, we need special energy to do all things. See what Jesus said:
Act 1:8a
8 But you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you;
Power to do what? Power of love, forgive, to be peaceful, to have joy and many other things. We can’t do all that in our human nature to other people more so our spouse unless we allow the Holy Spirit to work in us. Take a few second and see what Jesus had to say.
John 14:26
26 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.
John 15:26
26 “But when the Helper comes, whom I shall send to you from the Father, the Spirit of truth who proceeds from the Father, He will testify of Me.
John 16:5-14
5 “But now I go away to Him who sent me, and none of you asks Me, ‘Where are You going?’ 6 But because I have said these things to you, sorrow has filled your heart. 7 Nevertheless I tell you the truth. It is to your advantage that I go away; for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you; but if I depart, I will send Him to you. 8 And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment: 9 of sin, because they do not believe in me; 10 of righteousness, because I go to My Father and you see me no more; 11 of judgment, because the ruler of this world is judged.
12 “I still have many things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now. 13 However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come. 14 He will glorify me, for He will take of what is mine and declare it to you.

When we allow the spirit, He is able to teach us many things about marriage, will b e able to constant us when things are not working the way we want them to work.
Why do you think we need to allow the Holy Spirit in our marriage?
First our marriage is a mystery
Ephesians 5:31-33
31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Second it only the Holy Spirit who can bear his fruits in u s. we can’t.
Galatians 5; 22-23
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.
Third it is only the Holy Spirit who can help us love our spouse with no string s attached that is unselfishly
1Corithains 13; 4-6
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
Lastly, it is the Holy Spirit which can help us to use our mouth rig ht not to use it to hurt our spouses
Proverbs 15:1-2, 4, 23.
1 A soft answer turns away wrath,
But a harsh word stirs up anger.
2 The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly,
but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness.
4 A wholesome tongue is a tree of life,
but perverseness in it breaks the spirit. 23 A man has joy by the answer of his mouth,
and a word spoken in due season, how good it is!
So the Holy Spirit is the missing link to a successful marriage. Before we point a finger to our spouse, first look at yourself to see if you have allowed the Holy Spirit to work in your life look closely to see if this TREE called the Spirit is mature enough t o bear fruits in you.
Remember God delights in marriage
Proverbs 18; 22
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
and obtains favor from the LORD.
And God is grieved if we don’t cherish this gift of marriage
Malachi 2:16
16 “For the LORD God of Israel says
That He hates divorce,
for it covers one’s garment with violence,”
Says the LORD of hosts.

“Therefore take heed to your spirit,
that you do not deal treacherously.”
I wish you the best as you allow the teaching of the Holy Spirit in your life for the better mind it your marriage.
Blessings
PR. MOSES

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