Marriage Restoration Net Work Uganda: 2015

Monday, June 8, 2015

Food For Thought

Food for thought for married couples

A great marriage isn’t something that just happens; it’s something that must be created based on love. Love is the greatest gift when given. It is the highest honor when received.

Something Marriage couples Should Think of

Something married couples should think of

God created marriage as a blessing but many people seem to be like they are in prison because they have not known the meaning of marriage and why the loving God created it.

In Marriage Love is the reason. Lifelong friendship is the gift. Kindness is the cause. Til’ death do us part is the length. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. Being in a long marriage is a little bit like that nice cup of coffee every morning – I might have it every day, but I still enjoy it. Always remember A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. The difference between an ordinary marriage and an extraordinary marriage is in giving just a little ‘extra’ every day, as often as possible, for as long as we both shall live.

Wednesday, May 27, 2015

MARRIAGE TIP

Practice forgiveness

The unwillingness to forgive leads to bitterness, isolation, a burning anger and deterioration of the marriage. Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. So make the choice (repeatedly if necessary) to not hold past transgressions against your spouse.

Thursday, March 26, 2015

WHAT MAKES MARRIAGE A SUCCESS.

Marriage: Love is the reason. Lifelong friendship is the gift. Kindness is the cause. Til’ death do us part is the length. Always remember that A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. You must always know that being in a long marriage is a little bit like that nice cup of coffee every morning – I might have it every day, but I still enjoy it.

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

LOVE IS HARD WORK

Friends, let us learn to love our spouses. But remember this that “Love is hard work. It is the hardest work I know of, work from which you are never entitled to take a vacation.”

The epidemic we are seeing in our society and increasing around the world is the unwillingness to work at love. Life can be hard. Two sinful people in the most intimate of unions can experience a stretch and strain in their relationship as life hits from unexpected directions. Instead of enduring and growing through the challenges, couples choose to leave and start over.

We believe the best, ripest and most fruitful love is the love that weathers the storms. Love that is hard work shows grace through each other’s failures and chooses to work at love because it is a commitment made to one’s spouse.

Here are three love areas described in the Bible that have direct application to our marriages:

Love like Jesus

Jesus himself said to his followers, “As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (John 13:34) To love like Jesus means being proactive and choosing to sacrifice to meet the deepest needs of another.

In the context of marriage, what would it look like for you to be proactive in showing love to your spouse? Put another way, what would they really enjoy—that is a sacrifice for you—that only you can provide? A foot rub? A back rub? Prolonged conversation? Going on errands together when you’d rather stay home? You get the idea.

Love deeply

The apostle Peter wrote, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8) The idea in the original language for loving “deeply” means to love earnestly, or without ceasing.

Your love for your spouse should be like a heat-seeking missile, locked on target and focused on your mate. There should be no distraction, no wavering, no deterrent.

To love like this means to reject conflicting emotions and thoughts. To take each thought captive and commit one’s self to one’s spouse regardless of conflicting emotions or circumstances.

It is this kind of love that can forgive and not hold your spouse’s sins of the past against them. To love deeply is to choose to show grace and move forward in life together. It is choosing to keep short accounts.

Love actively

The apostle John wrote: “…let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.” (1 John 3:18) To put it in today’s vernacular, “talk is cheap.”

Your love for your spouse is to be lived out in the dailiness of life. A powerful key to expressing love to your spouse is to show love based on their “love language.”

The five love languages are: Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, Touch, and Words of Affirmation. If you don’t already know how your spouse likes to be loved—ask them which of these five resonates with their heart. Then respond accordingly!

How have you had to work hard on love in your marriage? Love IS hard work. And love is REWARDING work. So work hard on love—as you build your marriage!

Pasotor Moses Kerejji and Ruth are leaders of marriage restoration network Uganda

I am the fifth child in the family of six. My father married nine times before marrying my mother. This was so because of the choices he made were not the choices of his parents. As I was growing up, I saw all the injustice which was in the families. I saw the fighting the bad words which made me fill bad and I purposed in my heart that when I grow up and get married, I will not do like the people around are doing. I said that I will have one wife to avoid what I was seeing in our family and in the families of our neighbors. Also what I was seeing in the families of my two elder brothers. For my eldest brother had three and my other brother had two but their homes were battle fields. Fighting seven to ten times every month. I said that I will not beat up my wife and that I will have only one and that when I grow up I need to tell the people not to beat up their wives. I was 14 years when I made this resolution, but I was not a Christian. When I was 16 I started talking to my two elder brothers about their fighting all the time that it was not good. And that may be having one wife can solve the problem. My eldest brother thought about it and told my father what I told them and he told him that if a young person can see this then I need to act. So he sent away the other two wives and remained with one and that was the end of fighting in the Home. And they are still married. That was in 1978. the other brother refused and he had had the same problem and he has never had a happy marriage. During this time there was a pastor who was teaching about God and three years latter I gave my life to Christ. S when I gave my life to the Lord, I started to see things differently, I knew it is God’s will for the man to love his wife and it is God’s will for the wife to respect her husband. So from what I saw in the life of my elder brother and how things were going in their home, it gave me courage to speak to my cousins who were having the same problems. Those who thought about it are having a good marriage. But I did not know that this is what God what’s me to do. I would not fill happy when I saw people fighting their wives and I would not respect the people who would advise their sons to divorce their wives because of the cultural beliefs. But I would fear to tell them that what they are doing is not right. When I grew in knowledge of the word, then I knew that this is a call on my life, like when I could see the children from the divorced families on the street of towns. So I felt the burden for the marriage and of the children on the streets. Many people have come here to help the street kids but every time we have new ones. So I decided to tackle the root cause which is the marriage of their parents. That is when I, my wife and a few couples started meeting every Sunday evening to study Gods word, pray together, and also pray for the families. We did this for one year and we thought that praying alone will not help much. The Bible says that faith comes by hearing and hearing the word of God. So we said it will work more if we can go to them and teach them the word of God. That led us to start the marriage restoration network Uganda. Ruth is the second born in her family and for her case, she grew up in a Christian family unlike my self but before that it was not fine for her parents also. Before they had children and they died and the father thought that it was the fault of Ruth’s mom and they had a rough time in their marriage. After some time, her father heard the gospel, he went and asked the preacher if he got saved will God give them a child? The preacher told him that every thing is possible with the Lord. That is how he got born again and true God answered them and they had children. Two boys and one girl who happens to be Ruth. Her studied the word, and he became a pastor, his two young brothers did the same and they are pastors up to today, her elder brother is a pastor and over sees the church in three districts of eastern Uganda and happens that he is our coordinator for marriage restoration network Uganda in eastern region. So that is some thing about us and how we came to be involved in the married ministry. God bless you as you work with us to bring back marriage to God’s principals. Be blessed.

Godfrey and Sarah Ouma are the publicity coordinators for the Marriage restoration network Uganda

Calvary Greetings; About Mr. and Mrs. Ouma. Mr. and Mrs. Ouma met in 2002. Sarah was 34 yrs with two children (girls) when we got married.  With today’s high divorce rates, the phrase “ What God has joined together no man can put a sunder” has lost meaning , it has been abused so much that nobody takes it seriously .But not for Sarah and Godfrey .  Despite the difference in age that are a threat to marriages , Godfrey and Sarah have been happily married. Ours is a marriage that has unbalanced the Old social Order that the must be Older than his wife for marriage to work out ,and traditionally most people have been made to believe that marrying a woman with children is like a curse, but Godfrey died from the criticisms he got from his family and friends and accepted me with hands open wide looking beyond the children and age to pursue a long lasting relationship. It takes God’s Grace for someone who has never been a parent to begin even thinking a bout the idea, it is very involving.  Marriage is from God. There is no formula for relating. Godfrey met Sarah in the neighborhood. He was from a different Church and different social- cultural background. Sarah comes from Bushenyi District western (ug) while Godfrey hails from Busia Eastern (ug).  Tribal differences did not bother him because as born again Christian, he believes marriage is meant to fulfill God’s programme.  Marriage in Christ is enjoyable. We didn’t look at the differences and children disadvantages, but we saw them as spring boards to take us forward.  Our marriage has flourished we didn’t involve the whole clan or the society in it.  Marriage is between the two people involved and not the whole world, the world will fail.  When he proposed to me I didn’t say no outright, but in my heart I didn’nt take him seriously. was only being polite. I didn’t want to marry a poor man, I wanted a man who was well off. I prayed about it and I heard a voice during day time that he is the one.I prayed again and God showed me how riches can come to nothing. Then I knew it was God’s plan  We have not yet got children together but we believe God in everything.  To us marriage is a bout learning to forgive one another Though most people put love at the top of the list for relationship to workout, but for us we believe that the one who forgives is the one who loves.  Although she is older than her husband she respects him. A man deserves to be held in high esteem whether you have more money than him, you chose him.  We advice you people to stop hunting for beautiful faces one ought to look for the beauty of the heart, that’s when God’s promise will come true.  Sarah is agrade III Teacher and an adult Education instructor with ten years experience Adult Education, specializing in languages, and primary Education.  Godfrey has a Diploma in Human Resource management and certificate in Art and Design owning a printing workshop where he does screen printing,digital aided printing and logo Designing as well as visual paintings and prints.  The couple has joined hand and established a junior school purposely to help the urban poor, Educate their kids at the lowest costs likewise there few orphans and vulnerable children are also a warded free Education by the same school.  As a couple being both directors Goodsphepherd Education centre have not found any difficult in helping the community through Education sector, we sit down and we discuss on any part that needs attention and resolve to do something and it works because the lord is always in the control. It seemed to be a difficult venture to put up such a project, with a lot of criticism expected to make a school for business but then we did the opposite.  In all these we have really seen the hand of the lord support our projects through prayer and unity. We want to encourage you to work, Together, serve the lord together invest together you will see the returns from Jesus Christ Ecc.4.9. GOD BLESS YOU!!!!! WE LOVE YOU

Pr. Samuel and Magaret Kato are the eastern region coordinators.

About pastor Samuel and Mary Kato. I grew up it the family of a preacher of the word. I am the first born in a family of three and my father says that we are a result of prayer, for he says that every child they produced died young and they had six before us. My father was a pastor who taught about holiness and wanted me to follow him. So he took me to the bible school to become a pastor. I went and graduated in 1986. From that time I have been a pastor. I pastured Pentecostal assemblies of God church in Tororo, was a district overseer and now am now the regional overseer still in the Pentecostal church. I also teach about holiness and I travel the whole country teaching the word of God about living a holy life. From the many trips I have made in this country I found out that marriage was suffering and that as the church we need to do some thing. Many people were not committed to their marriage and there was a lot of divorce around. So I wanted the church to come in and solve the some of the problems. That is how I contacted the brothers in the Lord who were having the same conviction for the married people and we started marriage restoration network Uganda. And that is how I became the regional coordinator for ministry. I am married to my wife Mary a teacher by profession, and we have been married for the last twenty years and God has blessed us with six children. She is the leader of the women in our church and has been a source of encouragement for the marriage couples in the community. So I would request whoever has the heart for marriage who believes that God made man and woman for marriage to come and work with us at marriage restoration network Uganda to bring marriage back on God’s principals.

Mike and Teddy coordinates prayers for the ministry and teachs about prayer.

ABOUT MIKE AND TEDDY ETWALU. PRAYER KEEPS A MARRIAGE TOGETHER. Praise God my sisters and brothers in the Lord, I learnt the power of prayer when I was a young man. As a single young man, I took a step of faith and went before the throne of grace making my request known to God by prayer according to Philippians 4:6. God was faithful and answered my prayers by leading me to my beautiful wife Teddy Awori Etwalu. Now as a couple we have been in marriage for a period of14 years and what has sustained our marriage is prayer and as a couple we have learnt that prayer is a weapon that can be used shatter and destroy the enemy in the family. Isaiah 54:17; the enemy forges many weapons against the married couple i.e causing quarrels, disagreements, bitterness unfaithfulness and many others in order to destroy your family. I have a lot of examples about these things as a result of praying with couple. They tend to be so bitter to their spouses and as we pray about these particular things and ask them to repent of them I have seen families change and have happy marriages. So I realized that there is a great need for the married to pray, have family alters, forgiving one another and to pray for their spouses. So that is why we at marriage restoration network Uganda encourage married couples to maintain the spirit Love burning their hearts so that their prayers ca be effective both in their lives and also in the lives of other married couples who sees them. So join hands with us for this noble cause that our families should go back to God’s principles.